At school there was a girl who got pregnant at 15 years old. This young girl told a teacher everything. All the teachers and children were eventually told. She remained anonymous (they did not say her name), but it was obvious who it was. There was no objection to her returning to school but she did not feel she could cope.
My best friend has a teenage daughter. When she was about 14 the first thing I told her about men, is not to bring an idiotic man to the house. I also gave her a card that said ’When is the best time to kiss a man? The card said WHEN HE’S RICH!’ The whole family found it very funny. Is this right or is this right? I wrote in the card ‘Make sure you get a good man when you get big.’
Then I noticed what some black Divas were singing about men. A Diva is a celebrated female singer. The term is used to describe a woman of outstanding talent in the world of opera and by extension in theatre, cinema and popular music (Wikipedia).
There was a diva called Gwen Guthrie who sang a song called ‘There ain’t nothing going on but the rent’. This song is basically saying she does not want a man with no money.
Gloria Gaynor sang a song called ‘I will survive’, which is very famous. This song is basically telling the man that she does like anymore, to get out of her life. Alesha Dixon sang a song called ‘The boy does nothing’. This song is talking about a man who does not do the housework. Janet Jackson sang a song called ‘What have you done for me lately? ‘Sunshine Anderson sang a song called ‘Heard it all before’, which is saying that she is fed up of her man’s lies.
The above Divas are talking about the relationships they’ve had with men that are no good. Then I had to look at the other side of the coin and told her about some positive examples from Divas.
The first example I told her about was the Tina Turner song called ‘Simply the Best’. It is a beautiful song and I like the words. I am surprised that she did not write a song about her former husband Ike Turner. Maybe she was too scared to sing about what she really thought about him. Or maybe it hurt too much.
Chaka Khan sang a song called ‘Ain’t nobody loves me better’. She is basically singing a song about a man that made her very happy.
I would like my friend’s daughter to be choosey when it comes to having a relationship with the opposite sex. It’s best not to rush into things you will later regret, especially when you are young. I was born in the 60’s (don’t tell anyone!). If you are not careful love can be just a four letter word.
The UK has the most under aged pregnancies in Europe, with 2.9 out of every 100 girls aged between 15 and 19 giving birth every year (‘UK tops league of teenage pregnancy’, Steve Dougherty, Daily Mail). I think this is quite negative for all concerned. Tina Turner asks ‘What’s Love got to do with it?’ These under aged pregnancies must be affecting the economy because these young girls did not get a career, and the government has to support mother and baby.
Has the way that men treat women changed negatively? Maybe it’s because women are now more career-orientated. Have the roles reversed?